The Eight Key Ideas to consider when it comes to goals     

As we explore and evolve our goals, consider that...

     1. An Inner congruent (energy) alignment is what determines the goals that will manifest (maybe always!)
     2. Outer clarity on what it is we really want (the outcome) - what will you see hear and feel
     3. Is the goal really coming from our authentic energy (hearts desire), or programming, conditioning, compensation
     4. Letting go of the 'how'. What's important about this goal? and could you get that in other ways?
     5. Goals set up a direction or trajectory, which can be more important that the outcome
     6. Attempting and/or achieving goals also invoke meanings that can be more important than the outcome
     7. What you achieve on the way to your goal can be more important than the outcome
     8. Clarify and take the action steps that will get you there, as easily and as enjoyably as possible.


The Four Conditions for well formed outcomes

Putting your goals in well formed outcomes is a key step in achieving them. Any resistance to doing so reveals hidden blocks and emotional blocks that can be cleared

1. Stated in the positive
     Say what you want vs. what you don't want

2. Initiated and maintained by you
     What are the actions you can take towards your outcome and are those within your control

3. Sensory Based Evidence – what will you see, hear feel when you succeed
     How will you know you got your goal? What would a movie camera record (see/hear)

4. Ecology – Is your goal in harmony with your with your whole system?
     what will happen if you do get your outcome?
     what won't happen if you do get your outcome?
     what will happen if you don't get your outcome?
     what won't happen if you do get your outcome?

Ultimately, your goals engage you with life, and that is arguably the real purpose of them, over and above the desired outcome. If you prioritise your

What happens when you start defining and refining your goal?

The act of sitting down to write out your outcomes is a key step in making them real. And because of that, either before or during this, resistance and/or emotions can come up and this is precisely the most effective time to use the emotional regulation tools to bring down the charge on any 'push back' coming from within your system. This really is a 'magic step' in the process. You actually want those things to come up if they have been lurking in the background so you can clear them out.

Some common blockers that we explored in the 3d live session were

It’s not possible
It’s not possible for me
It’s too difficult / it’s really hard
I can’t have what I want
I’ll never get what I want
I can’t imagine getting what I want
‘People’ won’t want me to have what I want
It (this process) won’t work for me

Don't buy into the narrative of any of these - you're only job is to balance the emotions coming up in your body - if you are really not meant to do a goal because it's not in true authentic alignment with you, it will drop away or that will become obvious.

You'll know once all (or most of) the emotions are clear, as you'll naturally find yourself excited about sitting down to design your future, and this is a clear sign that you are well on your way to energtic and behavioural congruence and alignment with the outcomes you want to create, and the feeling of 'havingness' will be easy to experience - this then creates the motivation to plan and then take the appropriate actions in the word.